The fuckery of Ferguson

The picture above is of a black woman getting washed for teargas after she was protesting for the death of Mike Brown.  This guy has been held up to almost jesus-like levels as people. Mostly black women hit the streets and basically risk their lives totally oblivious to the fact that these men could care less about black women's lives. 

It annoys me to no end how they basically made this Michael  brown character a martyr. When there have been over 10 killings of black women at the hands of law enforcement. What is wrong with our society when black men kill other black men on a daily basis and no one cares, but if a white person does it. All of a sudden it’s a problem??? The real tragedy is that black women are being slaughtered and no one is saying a peep about it.  We have to be real. If black men were corralled there would be no ghettos, there would be no gangs. We are at the mercy of their self-hatred and no one addresses it. Like no one addressed this story.

This gruesome ordeal happened to a young interracial couple - Jan Pawel Pietrzak, 24, Polish American and Quiana Jenkins Pietrzak, 26, African American, in their home located near the Marine Corps Air Station Miramar (where Pietrzak worked), in Winchester, California. Four black men who were soldiers under Pietrzak decided to repeatedly rape and torture his wife while he watched. And after they were finished, they beat pietrazak bloody. Shooting them both in the head. This wasn’t even seen as a racial crime by the racist LAPD. 

No one marched for Jan Pietrazak. No one is marching for the black women being slaughtered at all.  Yet we go nuts over thugs like Miceal brown, who was allegedly seen bulling a guy after he stole cigars from his store (remember I said allegedly for the polly mammies  about to rip into me)

Keke Palmer was protesting in solidary for this trouble maker and got grouped! That shows you the regard that “the brothas” have for us. We should be constantly upholding to them and accept the abuse from them. A woman, ,Mya Aaten-White says she was walking to her car after protesting when she was shot In the head. She was marching for this thing and no one, especially her fellow sisters marched for her!  

These hateful animals that are terrorizing our streets and us women we cannot do anything about, but we must make a point to raise these black boys (and I don’t care if they are interracial in THIS country they are black) to be upstanding individuals with morals and raise black women to love themselves and other women and see them as value .Not the need to be validated by men period. And can we please not march for r Kelly and march for better schools, education and better lives for our daughters? I really hope this is possible. We need to start marching and showing that black women’s live are that of value. I feel that these cops will continue to terrorize black women simply because the know no one will come forward.

The sad story about the IR couple killed by thugs

http://thisblksistaspage.wordpress.com/2009/04/09/race-jealousy-was-the-motive-behind-torture-rape-murder-of-interracial-couple-by-black-marines/

the woman who was shot for while protesting

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2014/08/22/1323775/-A-woman-shot-during-Ferguson-protests-says-police-are-not-investigating

The six deadly sins of the Black Woman

Black women are moving forward in Education and in life in general. We are witnessing a new revolution that may change the course of social history. Remember I said "may” the reason why I say this because despite our accomplishments, we have been slacking in areas and I will break it down. But the disclaimer is I need you to read this entire post before making any judgments. Here are some things that are hindering us and if we change course, we will be on top!

Deadly sin #1: Attracted to negativity

As a blogger, I write all kinds of content that I feel will inform and also uplift. I check my stats to see what content attracts my readers. If I write a post about improving something. My numbers are low. But if I write a post about the fails of black men or gossip, my numbers are high.

To start on the road to becoming the new you, be informed, but also seek out content that will improve you as a person. Any content that will help you to improve your financial, health and mental health situation. Eat better, meditate, mediate MEDITATE!!!!! Learn to take time to be by yourself. Stop complaining. Look for solutions. Stop gossiping about the girl at work or your neighbor. Take energy on improving yourself. Your life will thank you.

Deadly sin#2: Thinking that white men are the solvent to your romantic life

It is wonderful that black women are finally dating out. Breaking the shackles of black oppression and exploring their options. But at what cost? there are sites that actually make like dating a white men is end all, be all of life. They neglect to help black women face potential challenges when dating a white man in America. Black women who have never dated a white man have unrealistic expectations of white men. They think that when they date a white man. They will date a rich, loving man that will tend to their every need. However, there are a number of variables that will contradict these beliefs. With the sensitive racial history we have with whites in this country. Even in 2014 there are taboos to dating one another. We are still seen as second-class citizens. So one has to question the motives of a white man dating a black woman in this country. For one, we are still fetishized as these over-sexualized vixens that are walking sex toys. Look at Bill Maher, who has a very successful show. And dates multiple black women and nothing else. He never address his preference but when asked if he will ever marry, he has stated "I’m likely to get struck by lightning then for that to happen" and look at Simon Cowell. He was in a long term relationship with several black women, only to finally have a son with a white woman. Some cases we are good enough to have sex with and that is all else. Not saying all men are like that. But in my experience, European men are less affected by the stereotypes that has been place on black women in this country. Plus, they are more mature and worldly.

Another problem with this is that with the state of black men now. One does not want to admit that we have a hand at making them the men that they are. Black women have coddled black men to the point that they don’t feel the need to be men to or for us. Now that we have a clean slate to work with, we are bringing those same attitudes with us. Do not coddle men when you date out. Have standards and not accept anything. White and Asian women do not accept anything less than a man that has himself together. When I used to date white American men and ask them why they want to date black women they would say "white women are too snooty and want their ass kissed" that was a red flag for me. to me, that is a man saying that a woman wants to much. Having a good job, education, and catering to your woman is snooty???? It’s scary but apparently the White American man already knows that black women will take anything. We certainty allow men to impregnate us and not get married so what else do we accept?? Its time to take a page out of the Asian/White handbook. They seem to get the husband in no time so we need to know how and why and do the exact thing. We need to also aware that the white men are like that for a reason. They had women that will not accept just anything. But at the same time, not assume that a man will be perfect. You will attract what you allow to attract. Leave those old attitudes of undying loyalty behind and have standards!

Deadly sin#3 Jealousy: A lot of us do not like or want to admit it. But there is a great amount of jealousy between the sisters. Do you know now people are getting mad that women with looser curls that claiming the natural hair movement? I'm one of them. Been natural all my life. But By no means do I think my hair is better than someone’s hair that is kinky. Aside from that, we divide based on color and what we think is prettier than us. There will always be someone prettier, faster, smarter, younger and more. You have to admit that you have jealousy, and when you discover this, you have to make you the best person you can be. Nothing is stopping you from learning a new language or skill. Getting that new hair cut or start a workout routine. If there are people that you think are doing better than you. Study them, find out what makes them great and become that.

Deadly sin#4 Attitude: They always say some stereotypes have an element of truth to it and this one is dead on. I don’t know if it’s because I live in New York, but my goodness if I ever seen so many mean mugging women in my life! I’m not saying that you need to have a cheese grin on your face every waking minute, but try at least to smile, be cordial. Not always have to snap back with a smart ass answer. I make it a point to say please and thank you all the time to everyone. I smile and greet people. And it’s contagious! People respond in kind usually. Also I see myself as an ambassador of the black woman’s image, you should too. I want people to think about those stereotypes and think “well I have seen some black women with nice attitudes, class etc.” I’m always conscious about how I carry myself outside. I understand that black women go through a lot. I have been there trust me. But you need to meditate, pray, go to the spa and distress. Do not bring that energy with you to work or to the public. It will not get you anywhere. And if you encounter a person with attitude, do not respond in kind. Say a prayer for them and move on. Hopefully they will find their enlightenment. But men constantly say we are acerbic and rude while the Asian woman is hailed as the most feminine. Let’s turn this misconception around ladies!!

Deadly sin#5 Lack of financial security: we work hard and there is nothing wrong with a little leisure fun at times. But buying all the name brands will just make someone else richer. Competition for homeownership is at an all time high. The immigrant community works hard as a unit to own. Yet we as black people are so busy fighting and proving we are better than the next, we are left starting where we left off. Ownership is substantial in this country. What is the point of renting for the rest of your life??? It’s time to save money for a rainy day. Several rainy days. Get your credit right. Learn to do your nails. I did. Skip a extravagant vacation. Keep the name brands to a minute. I do not wear name brands. But you would never know it. I dress well. And while my friends and colleagues are bragging about the new jimmy choos and I-phone. My bank account looks VERY pretty. I own nothing to anyone and when I’m ready, I will make my purchase and start renting my damn self!

Deadly sin#6 having to many kids: I have noticed that especially when black women get married. They think its license to have tons of kids. I know of one woman that had 6 kids after she got married. And do we need to mention before? Children are wonderful. However, they are very very very expensive. Along with the emotional support they need. They are a huge responsibility. In order for the next generation of girls and especially boys to become the best they can be. They need to be in a stable environment. Life is unpredictable in so many ways. We have no idea how the economy will pan out. You really cannot depend on a man being there to help raise a child to adulthood. So why have more than one? What I see all the time is black women being so mean to their children, yelling at them and hardly ever nurturing them. It is because they are stressed. So if you are not going to be able to give a child all the love they need and financial back up. Then please. Do not have one. The goal is to improve on the race, not add another statistic.

Look, I’m not here to bash. But I feel that these issues needed to be addressed for the betterment of black women. We cannot talk about natural hair care and what black guy is fucking up at the moment. The goal in the black women’s movement is improvement and that is what I want for you!

tips about being positive:

http://regulatingthegamenow.blogspot.com/2011/03/your-perception-and-energy-is.html

Tips on getting your money straight

http://regulatingthegamenow.blogspot.com/2014/03/now-is-time-to-get-your-money-right.html

Tips about combating jealousy

http://regulatingthegamenow.blogspot.com/2011/02/never-let-green-eyed-monster-get-you.html

 

Post about how friends affect your environment

 

http://regulatingthegamenow.blogspot.com/2011/02/toxics-friends-they-may-be-reason-you.html

Is the black man to go by way of the Asian man?

With tension at it’s highest between back women and men. Black women are finally waking up and dating out. The revolution for black women has begun. So with that being said, where does this leave black men and what is the future for them?

I know most of you are saying “who cares!” lol. This trend is interesting because it has a probability of happening. Let’s take a look at The Asian dynamic and how this trend could totally be mimicked within black culture.

Since the beginning of Asian society, the Asian woman was seen as delicate, almost childlike entities. Basically made to cater to men. Look at the Geisha phenomenon. Women train for years just to learn to put tea on the table the “correct” way for so called upper-class Japanese men! Not really valued more than that. If a woman was to have to many female children, they were harassed to kill it.  There were even rooms that they created to let children starve to death. (Look at link below) 

A revolution ensued. Out of the need to get out of the homes and cultural confines of being a woman in a culture that puts women as second class citizens, Asian women started to marry American soldiers in the 70’s. Of course it wasn’t a total victory. American men was attracted to Asian women in hopes of exercising their desire to be dominate men at a time when there was women’s lib and women, especially white women, wanted to break free of being the traditional housewives. Asian women saw it as an opportunity, what may have seemed like oppression to the American white woman, was virtually paradise for the Asian woman. The American man was not perfect, but he certainly would not make her kill her children  and act in a total slave like manner. She would have more freedom relative to what she would experience in the east. 

By the 80’s and 90’s it was normal to see Asian women and white men. (Sounds familiar?) And if you did see an Asian man, he would be with other Asian men or by himself.  White women are now Americanized. They no longer hold the old eastern traditions of cratering to men. They have successful careers and are one of the highest earners in interracial couplings. The Asian man was an after thought. Asian men got so angry of the change, but what could they do? They had the stigma of being domineering, disrespectful, and hateful toward their Asian counterpart. It was harrowing for them and within the last few years. They have licked their wounds and finally Asian women are slowly coming back.With that being said, is this the fate of the black man? They will be solitary, decidedly so. It will take a little more time; however their behavior is no different than that of the Asian man of old. Women are waking up and taking a stand. Proudly acclaiming that they will no longer be held down to be the back bone of the black community. They are finally discovering that they are  being seen as beautiful by men all over the world. It will take time. But if we do not repeat the mistakes of the past, this is a possibility. There is one variable however. Asian men haven’t been desired by anyone whereas black men are desired by many. So it will take time. However, most black men with good looking non black women need money, and lots of it. Earning potential becoming more difficult for the masses, and black women actually in college more than ever despite that. The likely hood of black men sustaining desirability is low.

Black women must realize that this is their golden time to seize the opportunity. They have such potential of having loving relationships. Becoming marriageable.. Building a solid foundation . But the overall possibility of this happening rests on BW. I'm sorry, but there have been a lot of mistakes along the way that helped black men be the weak hate filled beings they are today. We as black women need to accept love. Not pay for dates and try to buy the love that is due us. We must not just accept any little iota of attention. We need to have standards and also accentuate the qualities that make us the queens we are so that kings gravitate to us!!!

(the sins of the black woman in a future post)

 Story of the dying rooms

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zd_nptd2q0M

The history of the Geisha

  http://acc6.its.brooklyn.cuny.edu/~phalsall/texts/c-wnhol.html

A story about black and asian couplings

http://www.complex.com/pop-culture/2014/03/why-black-women-and-asian-men-should-date/