Is the black man to go by way of the Asian man?

With tension at it’s highest between back women and men. Black women are finally waking up and dating out. The revolution for black women has begun. So with that being said, where does this leave black men and what is the future for them?

I know most of you are saying “who cares!” lol. This trend is interesting because it has a probability of happening. Let’s take a look at The Asian dynamic and how this trend could totally be mimicked within black culture.

Since the beginning of Asian society, the Asian woman was seen as delicate, almost childlike entities. Basically made to cater to men. Look at the Geisha phenomenon. Women train for years just to learn to put tea on the table the “correct” way for so called upper-class Japanese men! Not really valued more than that. If a woman was to have to many female children, they were harassed to kill it.  There were even rooms that they created to let children starve to death. (Look at link below) 

A revolution ensued. Out of the need to get out of the homes and cultural confines of being a woman in a culture that puts women as second class citizens, Asian women started to marry American soldiers in the 70’s. Of course it wasn’t a total victory. American men was attracted to Asian women in hopes of exercising their desire to be dominate men at a time when there was women’s lib and women, especially white women, wanted to break free of being the traditional housewives. Asian women saw it as an opportunity, what may have seemed like oppression to the American white woman, was virtually paradise for the Asian woman. The American man was not perfect, but he certainly would not make her kill her children  and act in a total slave like manner. She would have more freedom relative to what she would experience in the east. 

By the 80’s and 90’s it was normal to see Asian women and white men. (Sounds familiar?) And if you did see an Asian man, he would be with other Asian men or by himself.  White women are now Americanized. They no longer hold the old eastern traditions of cratering to men. They have successful careers and are one of the highest earners in interracial couplings. The Asian man was an after thought. Asian men got so angry of the change, but what could they do? They had the stigma of being domineering, disrespectful, and hateful toward their Asian counterpart. It was harrowing for them and within the last few years. They have licked their wounds and finally Asian women are slowly coming back.With that being said, is this the fate of the black man? They will be solitary, decidedly so. It will take a little more time; however their behavior is no different than that of the Asian man of old. Women are waking up and taking a stand. Proudly acclaiming that they will no longer be held down to be the back bone of the black community. They are finally discovering that they are  being seen as beautiful by men all over the world. It will take time. But if we do not repeat the mistakes of the past, this is a possibility. There is one variable however. Asian men haven’t been desired by anyone whereas black men are desired by many. So it will take time. However, most black men with good looking non black women need money, and lots of it. Earning potential becoming more difficult for the masses, and black women actually in college more than ever despite that. The likely hood of black men sustaining desirability is low.

Black women must realize that this is their golden time to seize the opportunity. They have such potential of having loving relationships. Becoming marriageable.. Building a solid foundation . But the overall possibility of this happening rests on BW. I'm sorry, but there have been a lot of mistakes along the way that helped black men be the weak hate filled beings they are today. We as black women need to accept love. Not pay for dates and try to buy the love that is due us. We must not just accept any little iota of attention. We need to have standards and also accentuate the qualities that make us the queens we are so that kings gravitate to us!!!

(the sins of the black woman in a future post)

 Story of the dying rooms

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zd_nptd2q0M

The history of the Geisha

  http://acc6.its.brooklyn.cuny.edu/~phalsall/texts/c-wnhol.html

A story about black and asian couplings

http://www.complex.com/pop-culture/2014/03/why-black-women-and-asian-men-should-date/